Reconsider a commitment ~ You have the right to change your mind.

choicesIt’s absolutely true! We can change our mind…..

Ever say yes to something and then …. the more you think about it you regret saying “yes?”

Me, too!

As women, we tend to over-commit. We juggle work, raising a family, maintaining a household and personal relationships. It’s what we do.

And then, the inevitable happens – we get older (and wiser)…. or we get sick. Because we are not going to let old age or illness defeat or change us…. we continue to say “yes” when a firm “no” is the right choice for our time, energy, and motivation.

Sometimes I wonder if that is what illness or physical challenges are all about…. to teach us about CHOICES. Our life is really all about the choices we make… My life is all about the choices that I make.

Being honest with myself and others when I have over-committed is a loving act of self-care and respect. The Brene’ Brown quote that follows describes it pretty well. (I am a fan).

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

This is a rambling post. I make no apologies. It is the place I find myself today. I am pondering a commitment I made to help out an organization that I used to be quite involved with after my daughter’s wedding and now am having second thoughts. What was I thinking?

When I examine my thoughts and feelings I discover that it is about wanting to belong… to feel valued… to be seen as competent (when I am not always feeling so). Oh, that “needy” sub-personality gets me in trouble.  Will I allow it?  Not this time.

How about you?  Have you ever over-committed?  Said yes when you wanted to say no? Are your CHOICES based on your heart’s desire and values or a sense of obligation or co-dependent need?

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